Jul 9, 2010 Posted by Tom

It Doesn’t Need to be Perfect – Part 2

If you missed part 1, not to worry.  You can find it here. — A man would do nothing if he waited until he could do it so well that no one could find fault. –John Henry Newman — Welcome back!  In part 2 I’ll be discussing perfectionism in relationships and perfectionism of the self, as well as how you can avoid the trap of perfectionism if it’s preventing you from advancing... read more

Jul 7, 2010 Posted by Tom

It Doesn’t Need to be Perfect – Part 1

This article is a two-parter.  The next part is already up!  You can find it here. — The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself. –Anna Quindlen — Perfectionism in work Perfectionism is a strange creature to be sure.  For some, perfectionism seems to be somewhat of a friendly giant.  It causes them... read more

Jul 5, 2010 Posted by Tom

Fear is Prohibitive to Life: How to Move Past it

The one permanent emotion of the inferior man is fear– fear of the unknown, the complex, the inexplicable.  What he wants above everything else is safety. –Henry Louis Mencken — Fear is probably the most common factor in stagnation of the self.  It can be paralysing, long-lasting and will ultimately hold you back from doing what you want to do with your life.  Pushing through your... read more

Jul 3, 2010 Posted by Tom

For the ladies: Why you should never settle in a relationship

There is no passion to be found playing small – in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living. –Nelson Mandela — Truthfully, this is a good post for men as well since both sexes suffer from relationship complacency; however I think that women will probably benefit a lot more from what I’m about to write than men will since in my experience it is more... read more

Jun 30, 2010 Posted by Tom

Take What You Want Seriously and it Will Become a Reality

Some men give up their designs when they have almost reached the goal; while others, on the contrary, obtain a victory by exerting, at the last moment, more vigorous efforts than before. –Polybius — ‘I take my goals seriously!’ you say defiantly.  Well, okay, maybe you do.  But lots of people don’t.  And it’s a very fine line between thinking you take your goals... read more

Jun 16, 2010 Posted by Tom

The secret to quitting smoking, from someone who did it.

One thousand American’s quit smoking every day– by dying. –Author Unknown — Before I write anything I want to make it very clear that I was a smoker for the better part of two years and that my exeperience with quitting is likely to be wildly different (read, ‘easier’) than someone who has been smoking for thirty years plus.  Nonetheless, I believe that no matter how... read more

Jun 13, 2010 Posted by Tom

Why You Don’t Need to be the First to Accomplish Your Dreams and Make a Difference in Your Field

To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. –Ralph Waldo Emerson — Being a veritable drop in the enormous pond that is self-help, I’m sure many people would ask themselves why I would even bother to make a site devoted to something that has been covered thousands of times before. Well, that’s a little... read more